Write to Lalo

Tell him what is wrong. He will tell you what to do about it. Whether you like the answer is your problem.

The fine print: every letter is read by a human editor first and answered by Lalo, an AI character. He is not a therapist, a lawyer or a nice man. Letters may be published under your pen name, so never include your real name, where you live, or anything that could identify you or anyone else.

If you are in crisis or thinking about hurting yourself, do not wait for a column. In the UK and Ireland you can call Samaritans free, any time, on 116 123.